Infidelity & Affair Recovery
From the shock and shame of infidelity to the emotional instability of substance abuse, such a crisis can have earth-shattering effects and chronic consequences that result in destabilizing the relationship. In many cases however, when a particular partner is struggling with a deeper issue, such behaviors are not necessarily a sign of an unhappy or dysfunctional marriage. They are signs however that a partner is struggling with inner personal conflict that is clearly far greater than what they imagined or intended. Whether a partner’s behavior has gotten worse over time with substances or, such in the case of an affair, there’s an acute violation of trust, pain from such injuries can seem insurmountable and have a powerful impact on both partners creating feelings of panic, denial, and depression.
The good news is that there are effective treatments for couples in distress. Treatment is, in part, building or rebuilding the trust that once kept both partner’s grounded, safe and secure. The most revealing part, once couples enter therapy, is working towards a place whereby they see each other as human beings who are capable of making regrettable mistakes – and we are all at risk during some point in our lives.
Recovery from such painful events is completely possible. However, to recover well will require the aid of a systematic therapeutic protocol and it’s a complex process that is best suited for a well-seasoned couple’s therapist. The majority of couples will experience some painful event over the course of their relationship that they will carry with them. The key is to build a process that can help find a way to talk about issues, to find solutions, and not have the problems that emerge in life become overwhelming. With an honest and sincere commitment, you can reemerge from the storm as a stronger and more resilient couple with a hopeful future.