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Marriage Counseling - Couples Therapy - Relationship Counselor - Psychotherapist

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Divorce Recovery

Specialties

 

Couples Counseling

Individual Therapy & Coaching

Family Therapy

Anxiety & Depression

Divorce Recovery

Infidelity & Affair Recovery

Intimacy

Trauma & EMDR Therapy

Divorce Recovery - For many, divorce is a new experience. Plenty of people marry -- and divorce -- more than once. But it would be a mistake to assume that because someone's been divorced once, the feelings, events, and experiences that follow a second divorce are passé. In fact, although you may be better informed, more savvy, and more able to handle the practicalities of a break-up, a second divorce may be even more emotionally traumatic than a first. 

One way or another, many of your feelings are no doubt quite "normal" -- the sort of reactions that anyone in your position will experience.In many ways, your reactions may resemble those of someone who has just been widowed. You may be grief-stricken, anxious about how you'll live from now on, and perhaps angry, guilty,
depressed, or all three. You'll almost certainly feel apprehensive about
having to handle many of the tasks of living with which you may have
little or no experience, or may have taken for granted. Unlike the widowed,
however, you still having a living ex-spouse who will almost certainly cross
your path frequently in the months immediately following the decision to
divorce, and perhaps well beyond that even if you don't have children. 

The impact of divorce, then, shouldn't be underestimated. Even in a day
and culture where the breakdown of marriages is commonplace and
divorce an accepted occurrence, marriage is still sacrosanct -- weddings
are still built upon oaths of commitment, and marriages are still legally
and emotionally binding. Even the most cynical go into marriage with the
expectation and hope that this will be the "right" one, developing a life
together on the basis that this relationship is permanent. Accordingly, it's serious business when the marriage falls apart. 

The circumstances of your particular divorce are dependent on the context of your life, your marriage, and your own particular emotional make up. Nevertheless, you're not the first person whose marriage has ended in a divorce. Take heart in the fact that most people going through divorce experience the same sort of emotions as you, face the same sort of challenges, and pass through the same sort of process as they work through the trauma, trial, and tribulations of divorce. And they come out the other side in one piece. Nevertheless, divorce work is difficult. It's about loss, change, and often, self esteem -- a powerful combination of forces. 

Seek help whenever you find yourself feeling especially pained, vulnerable, or lost. A support network -- family and friends -- is important during your divorce work, but even so, this might not be enough. If you find the emotional process especially difficult to deal with, seek help from a therapist, divorce counselor, trained clergy, or divorce support group. Under any circumstances, if you're concerned about the legal and practical issues seek out an experienced divorce attorney or mediator. 

 
The above article is provided by Phil Rich, Ed.D., MSW
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