12720 Hillcrest Rd., Suite 120

Dallas, TX 75230


Tel: 214-534-6177

Psychotherapist & Coach

Marriage Counseling - Couples Therapy - Relationship Counselor - Psychotherapist

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Discernment Counseling



Couples Counseling

Individual Therapy & Coaching

Family Therapy

Anxiety & Depression

Divorce Recovery

Infidelity & Affair Recovery


Trauma & EMDR Therapy

1 Foot In and 1 Foot Out

Discernment counseling is a short term process, and the focus is not on solving marital problems but on seeing if they could potentially be solved and the marriage is salvageable.

  • Unlike traditional marriage counseling that assumes that both people are willing to work on the marriage, discernment counseling helps people decide whether to work on their marriage or keep moving towards divorce.

  • Unlike individual counseling that usually takes one person's side, the discernment counselor works to understand both partners, even if they see things very differently.

Who is Discernment Counseling for?

Discernment Counseling is for people who are considering divorce but are

not completely sure if it's the right path for them. They want to take one

more look before making a permanent decision with long term

consequences. Primarily, It's for people who want to give their marriage

another chance even though their spouse is moving towards divorce.

What is the process of Discernment Counseling?

The discernment counselor helps individuals and couples decide whether

to try to restore their marriage to health, move towards divorce, or take a

time out and decide later. The sessions are divided between conversation with the couple together and individual conversations with each spouse. The counselor respects the reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health.


The counselor emphasizes the importance of each party seeing his or her own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends. Discernment counseling is considered successful when people have clarity and confidence in their decision.

When a decision emerges, the counselor helps the parties either to find professionals who can help them have a constructive divorce or to formulate a reconciliation work plan to create a healthy, successful marriage. In some cases, couples decide to take a time out from the discernment process and return later.

Discernment Counseling is not suitable when...

  • one spouse has made a final decision to divorce and wants counseling to encourage the other spouse accept that decision

  • there is a danger of domestic violence

  • there is an Order of Protection from the court

  • one spouse is coercing the other to participate


The information above is provided by:

Dr William Doherty 

University of Minnesota
297 McNeal Hall
1985 Buford Avenue
St. Paul, MN 55108


Stephanie Burchell PhD LMFT